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Diatribe: An Open Letter To Janay Rice.

An Open Letter

Dear Janay,

I’m sorry that you think the media is causing you “pain” just to get ratings, but let me tell you what I think is really happening.  You see, what your husband did to you in that elevator is not cool.  It’s not “ok”.  You love him and all, and you’ve forgiven him and chosen to move forward with your relationship and that’s your business, but the message that you’re sending to all the women who are getting beat up by their men is that “if you love them it’s ok”.

It’s not ok, Janay!  It’s never ok!

Your husband is a role model to nobody-knows-how-many kids who think want to grow up to play football and get rich … just like him.  Do you really want all those boys to grow up to be men who think it’s ok to punch their wives and knock them unconscious?  To think that women will stick around because if they really love them it’s ok to get beat up once in a while?  As the wife of an NFL player you, too, are a role model to young women.  Are you intentionally sending the message that you have to take a few punches for love?

Janay, you cannot blame the media for the fact that your husband has lost his job … you can only blame him.  The media did not punch you in the face, knock you unconscious and drag your limp body while allowing the proceeding to be captured on video.

The Baltimore Ravens and the NFL both have businesses to run.  Wife-beaters are bad for business.  Ray Rice is a documented wife beater.  Had you chosen to press charges he could, possibly, be in prison.  Perhaps they should have fired him sooner and they want their customers to know that they’ve finally done so.  This could explain why you find the media entrenched in your lives.  Releasing your statement on Instagram certainly added fuel to the fire.

It’s very difficult to feel any sympathy for you, Janay, as you whine about the “pain” this experience has caused your family, because you get to go home to a mansion and count your money while other abused women feel real pain in shelters across the nation.

As Dallas Cowboys owner Jerry Jones said just this morning, “There’s no question in my mind the emphasis that we have on spousal abuse in the NFL and the lack of tolerance for it.  It’s intolerable and it will be adjudicated accordingly.”  Domestic violence is a very serious issue.

I’m relatively certain the Rice family will quickly adjust to Ray’s early retirement.  Surely, you’ll be able to get by on savings.  And there’s probably a room or two in one of your homes where you can avoid the media for a while.

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Ovation: SheTaxis-SheRides.

imagesCA9TSRBCI once spent an afternoon trying to help a friend come up with a plan for her daughter to rent a car when she landed, alone, in an airport in a big city.  She didn’t want her to take a cab to her destination because she had misgivings about letting her young daughter get into a car, alone, with a strange man.  My friend and her daughter had landed in the airport together in the past many times, and her daughter was comfortable in driving the route to her destination without getting lost, so they felt she’d be safer driving on her own.  But, since she was not yet twenty-one years old, no rental car agency would allow her to drive one of their vehicles.

If she’d waited a while, a solution might have presented itself.

Starting next week, women in New York City will be able to request a female drivers through a new car service called SheTaxis-SheRides.  Beginning September 16th, the service will take requests for rides via an app (available only through Apple’s iTunes store for now) where potential customers will be asked if there is a woman in their party.  If there is not, they’ll be automatically redirected to other car services.

SheTaxis-SheRides was created by Stella Mateo, wife of Fernando Mateo the founder of the New York State Federation of Taxi Drivers, which represents 30,000 taxi and livery drivers.  She sees her company as helping women join a historically male-dominated industry and believes she could have used the service to help take her daughters to sports practice when they were growing up.

Similar services for women only are successfully offered by companies in other countries and plans to expand SheTaxis-SheRides into other U.S. cities are in the works.  App-based ride-sharing services Uber and Lyft are already extremely successful throughout the nation and there’s probably room for drivers sporting hot pink pashmina scarves instead of big fuzzy mustaches.

Ultimately, my friend had a colleague pick her daughter up at the airport and she relied on rides from friends for the weekend.  Next week, young ladies travelling alone to the Big Apple will have the option to choose drivers that are women.

Do you think SheTaxis-SheRides will be a successful venture?

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Diatribe: Stopping To Pet Cats While You’re Being Chased By Cops.

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Daniel Pinedo-Velapatino

One day, many years ago, on my drive home from the office two motorcycles passed me on the highway at a dangerously fast speed.  They flew by and continued to swerve from lane to lane as they progressed forward within the flow of cars ahead of me.  Not long afterward I saw flashing lights in my rear-view mirror.  I quickly realized that they were being chased by police and moved to the right hand lane, as did other drivers, to let them pass.

“Where do they think they’re going?” I wondered to myself.  “Do they really think they’ll make a miraculous escape as if they’re on television?”

Last week, 21-year-old Daniel Pinedo-Velapatino allegedly stole $15,000 from a friend.  Just hours after the friend reported the cash missing, Delray Beach, Florida, police attempted to pull over a man speeding in a silver Lexus.  The driver turned out to be Pinedo-Velapatino, the Lexus was stolen and Xanax, morphine and oxycodone pills were later found inside.  A chase ensued down a highway and onto a dead-end road where Pinedo-Velapatino crashed into a fire hydrant, hit an officer’s car twice and got stuck in mud.  Yet, he managed to escape on foot, jumping fences, swimming through canals, running across yards and ending up at the home of Candace Noonan and her husband.

Claiming to be a thirsty landscaper, the fugitive asked Mrs. Noonan for a glass of water.  While she brought him a bottle of water to drink, he sat on her living room floor to play with her cats.

“It was odd, very odd.  He was stroking my cat.  It almost looked like he either was on drugs or he was mentally handicapped.” – Candace Noonan

As he sat on her floor petting her cat and drinking water, Mrs. Noonan became suspicious and called authorities.

As police closed in, Pinedo-Velapatino ran off again and ended up in a nearby canal where they were able to arrest him.  He now faces charges including grand theft, fleeing and eluding, possession of various drugs and other charges.

Pinedo-Velapatino confessed to taking the money from his friend and told police that he needed cash to pay back his mother.

I never found out what happened to those two motorcyclists.  I imagine if they had stopped to pet cats during their high-speed chase it would have made the local news.

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Ovation: Mounting Pressure On Kroger To Keep Guns Away From Groceries.

images23I buy the majority of the groceries for our household.  I don’t, however, “shop” for groceries.  I go to the supermarket, find what I need, put it in my buggy, pay for it and get the heck out.  I don’t like it there.  It’s crowded.  People are rude.  There are superfluous display bins in the way.  The wheels on the shopping carts are out of alignment.  Folks don’t seem to know what they want to buy … it’s as if they’re “just looking”.  Argh.

Sometimes I think to myself there’s probably a woman in the crowd carrying a gun in her purse or that guy wearing a jacket on a hot summer day might be wearing a holster underneath.  I can pretend that guns aren’t there.

But not in Kroger stores where customers are notoriously allowed to openly carry firearms.

This week a gun control group called Moms Demand Action for Gun Sense in America began an ad campaign meant to pressure the grocery chain to put an end to the practice.  The ads contrast images of shoppers doing things that are currently prohibited in Kroger stores (like eating ice cream or shopping while shirtless) with carrying a rifle.  The images’ tag line … “Guess which one” isn’t allowed at Kroger.

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Similar campaigns by Moms Demand Action have been successful in convincing companies like Chipotle, Sonic, Target and Starbucks to change their policies about guns.  While falling short of outright bans that business owners say would be impossible to enforce, these companies request that their customers simply not bring weapons inside their stores or restaurants.

“These images bring into stark contrast Kroger policies that prohibit skateboards, food and a lack of appropriate attire in stores, but allow the open carry of loaded guns.  Businesses have an obligation to protect their employees and patrons.” – Shannon Watts, the founder of Moms Demand Action

The fact that companies are beginning to take gun control issues into their own hands, rather than rely on Congress where the National Rifle Association and its lobbyists are so powerfully influential, might suggest that corporate America fears the economic backlash of gun control activists more than that of those of favor permissive open carry laws.

Kroger doesn’t seem to want to take a stand.

“We know that our customers are passionate on both sides of this issue and we trust them to be responsible in our stores,” – Keith Daily, Kroger spokesman

As for me, I already avoid Kroger.  Buying groceries already works my last nerve.  I don’t want to do it with folks who think they need to be armed to shop for food.

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Diatribe: The Little Girl Who Got Trapped In A Washing Machine.

washing machineRecently, we purchased a new washer and dryer.  We’re not the most sophisticated launderers and would shove as many clothes inside it as it would hold, douse it with a splash of detergent, set it to “normal” and walk away.  Apparently, after twelve or so years of this abuse it just gave up on us.  Shopping for a replacement, we found, would not be an easy task.  Appliances for sale today are much more sophisticated than they were the last time we did any comparison shopping and we found ourselves learning about features and options that we didn’t know existed.

We consulted with relatives who had recently researched washers and dryers and discovered that their biggest complaint about the new machines on the market is the fact that their computerized motherboard mainframes won’t let you open the door once the machine begins to do its thing.  Heaven forbid, for example, you drop a sock and want to slip it in with the rest of your “darks” after you push the START button!  Oh, no!  Not with these new expensive machines!  One has to wait what seems like an eternity for the machine to allow its door to be opened.

Apparently, this feature isn’t only annoying to us sock droppers but it can be hazardous to the health of children in Texas Laundromats.

On Tuesday, a five-year-old Pasadena girl was airlifted to a hospital after she was found locked in an operating washing machine, on high speed for several minutes, before anyone noticed.  Apparently, a woman had tried to use the same machine at Le’s Washateria a few minutes earlier and told a manager that it wasn’t working.  She got a refund and moved her laundry to another machine.

“She was tumbling pretty fast in there.  One person walked by and said they saw something flopping around in there.  They thought it was just a dress or something because it was moving pretty fast.” – Vance Mitchell, Pasadena Police Spokesman.

Nobody appears to be certain how the girl ended up in the washing machine or how it began to actually work.  Information about where the little girl’s parents were at the time, or who was supposed to be watching her, hasn’t been released.

While the little girl suffered extensive injuries, she is expected to survive.

After learning about this poor, little (unattended) girl and the injuries that washing machine injuries that she sustained, I think I just might be a bit more patient when I have to wait for my new washing machine to let me open its door.

Do you have a new washing machine that locks its door?

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Ovation: The Squirrel Whisperer.

Mary KrupaAs much as I love squirrels, I’ve been outvoted at home when it comes to feeding them around the house.  We actually had to take down our bird feeders this summer because they became so popular with the squirrel population that it seemed we were feeding more of the furry little scoundrels that our fine feathered friends.  Granted, they stripped every leaf from our potted plants and they startled my dog as they stared in the windows looking for more to eat, but I still found their antics highly entertaining.

Alas, now they’ve moved on.

Mary Krupa, a junior at Penn State is gaining a reputation as a “squirrel shisperer” for befriending, feeding and dressing up a squirrel that she has named “Sneezy”.  Apparently, she’s able to dress the squirrel in party hats and convince it to hold miniature props simply by feeding it.  By using a peanut, Krupa is able to get close enough to the squirrel to pet her, put the hats on her and take pictures with her cell phone.  Some are so cute even the most anti-squirrel among us are sure to crack a smile.

There’s even a Sneezy the Penn State Squirrel Facebook page that features several squirrels in several different costumes.  The “About” section for Sneezy says she’s a “public figure” and that all photos are 100% Photoshop-free.  Sneezy is a “wild Eastern Grey Squirrel” whose hobbies include “eating, climbing trees, burying acorns and making people happy”.

I may have been outvoted on the feeding of squirrels in my yard at home but, rarely one to take no for an answer, I’ve begun to accumulate crystal squirrels and my collection is growing.  They’re cute as can be, they don’t eat leaves or make the dog bark and there are oodles of them waiting to be found on eBay.

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