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Diatribe: Sometimes It’s Best To Say Nothing At All.


Naya Rivera, “GLEE”

I’m not one for keeping my thoughts to myself.  In fact, those who know me (or follow this blog) will probably agree that I don’t have a filter between my brain and my mouth.  Occasionally, my inability to stop and think about what I’m going to say before I actually say it has been cause for embarrassment.

For this reason, among others, I find it beneficial to write rather than to speak.  For example, I’d rather compose a letter than make a telephone call and I prefer to send a text message than to leave a voice mail recording.  I need to be able to review and edit my thoughts before I express them.

There are others who have recently indicated that they might want to consider a similar routine.  For example …

“For thousands of years of recorded human history, no society has defended the legal standard of marriage as anything other than between man and woman. Only since 2000 have we seen a redefinition of this foundational unit of society in various nations.  Today, the U.S. Supreme Court decided to join the trend, despite the clear will of the people’s representatives through DOMA.  What the Court has done will undermine the best interest of children and the best interests of the United States.” – Michele Bachmann (R-MN), June 26, 2013

Or, instead of saying something like “I’m sorry, ya’ll … I’m just an old white woman from the South.  I didn’t mean nothin’ …’” we hear …

“If there’s anyone out there that has never said something that they wish they could take back — if you’re out there, please pick up that stone and throw it so hard at my head that it kills me.  Please. I want to meet you … I is what I is, and I’m not changing.” – Paula Deen on The TODAY Show, June 26, 2013

We’re also hearing idiocy like this …

“The DOMA ruling has now made the normalization of polygamy, pedophilia, incest and bestiality inevitable.  Matter of time.” – Bryan Fischer (American Family Association) via Twitter

… and this …

“My thoughts on the SCOTUS ruling that determined that same sex marriage is okay: “Jesus wept.” – Gov. Mike Huckabee

Each of us has a lot to say and our voices deserve to be heard.  Certainly, we’re all entitled to an opinion but some opinions should be kept to ourselves.  We should all spend a little bit more time listening before we speak and ask ourselves “Does what I’m about to say really need to be heard?”  Maybe it doesn’t.  Still it seems that all too often, in a race to be the first to comment on current events, we don’t review and edit our thoughts before we speak.

Sometimes it’s best to say nothing at all.


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From → Diatribes

  1. Too bad a lot of those folks yesterday didn’t get that message.
    Bachmann? We run this country by the Constitution, which she says she so dearly loves, until she gets pissy because her gay husband might now leave her, and then she resorts to the Bible.

    Deen? STFU. Now. Just.Stop.

    Fischer? He actually Tweeted that now ‘We The People’ doesn’t mean anything. I told him, now it means “WE” more than ever.

    Huckleberry? I Tweeted back to him Jesus had wept…..FOR JOY!


    • @ Bob Batten – I have no axe to grind and I know this is a touchy subject – so I am going to try and be fair and accurate here. I’m also no theologian, but I have picked up a bible on occasion and actually read it. Now, if memory serves me, there are two specific mentions of Jesus weeping: One was at the tomb of his friend Lazarus, and the was over Jerusalem at Israel’s rejection of their Messiah. Again if memory serves me Jesus affirmed marriage also being between a man and a woman when he quoted Genesis. So if Jesus were to weep here I’m sure it would be over people messing up his father’s order and working to make what God calls sin acceptable, right?


  2. Huckster, what a joke. I suppose he’s got Jesus’ cell number and call for a reaction.
    PS I tried typing huckabee and it autocorrected to huckster. I don’t have a problem with that.


  3. Barneysday permalink

    Open mouth, insert foot, chew vigorously. Seems to be the repeated mantra of these and many other right-wing fools. Good post


  4. We’ve all had to listen to the jerks on this ruling, which is annoying to say the least. Then there is the Voting Rights Act verdict which has already led to legislative action in TX.

    What have we done to our common sense as a nation?


  5. Hope you allow alternate viewpoints…

    Marriage is only can exist between a man and a woman. Biologically only males and females can mate. Any other union is a perversion of nature

    I have no problem with folks in civil unions. That’s their prerogative. Marriage cannot be re-defined. Getting tax breaks, medical and such: fine. – But man to man and woman to woman IS NOT a marriage.

    If you are not claiming to be Christian, do what you want. No problem. But please don’t get hitched in a church and leave God and the bible out of it. OK.

    To do otherwise only makes the perps look stupid.


    • Opposing viewpoints are always welcome.

      I completely agree with your idea to take the church, God and the Bible out of civil marriage. Doing so would quickly put an end to the entire debate.

      Personally, I believe that too many of us are unable to tell the difference between the Sacrament of Marriage performed in a church and the marriage agreement/license between a couple and the government. The truth is that marriage can, and does, exist without religion.

      Here’s an article that I’d like you to read. In it, the top ten arguments against same-sex marriage are addressed and refuted.

      If after you’ve read this article you still feel strongly opposed to same-sex marriage, I wholeheartedly support your decision to not have one.

      Thanks for reading!


      • Thanks for the article.

        In a purely naturalistic sense anything goes. If we are the masters of our destiny then there is no such thing as right or wrong. Laws are created by humans to govern other humans but who is to ultimately say what is right or wrong? The majority? Well we see what that got us in Nazi Germany.

        Marriage can be seen as either a cold legal contract, a sacred union, or a combination of the two. Speaking strictly in the Christian sense, marriage can never be between the same sex. Never. That’s true in Islam as well as Judaism.

        All I’m really saying is, don’t claim to be among those groups and then endorse same sex marriage. Such people should never desire to get hitched in a church, mosque or synagogue. That would be pretty retarded number one. Number two it would be a direct affront to the God they claim to serve. Keep it purely secular and it makes more sense.


        • It seems that we’re in agreement when we suggest that marriage be purely secular. Unfortunately, religion in one form or another has been in control for thousands of years and now “tradition”, regardless of its merits, seems to be the norm.

          That being said, gay people do fall in love and want to share with their mate the same experiences as their neighbors, friends, parents, siblings and those who don’t know or understand them. They don’t want to get “civil unioned”, they want to be “married”.

          Sadly, it appears that you don’t believe there are gay Christians. On this point, we disagree.


          • I like the way you rebutt. I’ve been on other sites where I seem to draw the profanity, ire, and censorship of others just for a difference of opinion.

            Sure there are gay people who consider themselves to be Christian. Just like there are gay people who consider themselves to be practicing Judaism and gay people who consider themselves Muslim. On that we agree. However, they are living in open rebellion to rules of their God.

            Alcoholism, murder, fornication, bestiality, incest, and adultery are all condemned by those religions as well. It would take a person with serious denial of reality issues in those religions to believe their God endorses any of that behavior. Yet they want acceptance and approval for their issues.

            Practicing homosexuality is a serious sin according to those religions, so for any gay practitioners to act like they are in good standing with the God they claim to serve is to live a lie. According to those world views their God they can never marry a same sex and expect blessing and approval. Some people have a habit however of doing what they want anyway regardless of what they know is proper simply because that is what they want to do.


          • Thank you for your kind words. I believe the author of the article referenced earlier summarizes my thoughts when he states:

            “Christianity-based arguments lead the way in efforts to oppose the legalization of same-sex marriage in America. References to the Bible, the “sinful” nature of homosexuality, and “religious beliefs” are regularly made by those who seek to rationalize their support of discrimination via religion. Marriage is a religious institution, they argue, and not one for society to tamper with. Given that the U.S.A. is a secular nation, religion should play no role in any discussion about civil and societal laws. In order to legally marry there is absolutely no requirement for a religious ceremony to be held. In this sense, marriage is not a religious institution but a socio-legal one governed by the state. Religious beliefs about marriage should never be enshrined in laws in ways that restrict the freedom of others who do not share those beliefs.”

            The extreme views shared by Bachmann, Fischer, Huckabee and the like appear to perpetuate discrimination in the name of God. I try not to judge.


  6. I try not to judge either. However, we are all guilty of it from time to time regardless of our good intentions.

    Religious people should not attempt to force their lifestyle and definitions on others. Same goes for humanists and secularists. That’s not fair. However, within those groups there should be a consistency and a desire to follow the God they claim to serve.

    For the three groups I’ve mentioned, there can be no acceptance of same sex marriage unless they are heretical. Such a concept simply flies in the face of the scriptures they claim to follow.

    I guess people can pick and choose what parts they want to accept and what part they want to reject, but to me that seems kind of dumb. That line of thinking makes the individual god not the one who they believe has given them written instructions. People should honestly attempt to live the lifestyle of the religious label they have chosen or they should leave it alone. No one is perfect, but people in these groups should not look for excuses to explain away their sinful behavior.

    I love your website by the way. Lots of good material here.


  7. Hear, hear (or should I say Listen, listen)!


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