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Diatribe Revisited: “Dance Moms” Abby Lee Miller Is Despicable.


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Originally published on February 23, 2012, “Diatribe: ‘Dance Moms’ Abby Lee Miller Is Despicable” still resurfaces in popularity every time Abby Lee Miller is in the news.

dancemomI admit it.  I’m a long-time viewer of Lifetime Network.  For many years I would turn it on as I went to bed because I could never fall asleep while listening to the news.  For years, I would drift off with The Golden Girls quietly snipping at each other across the bedroom.  Then, for many years after that Will & Grace would help me fall asleep with a smile on my face.  Then they started messing with the time slot at my bedtime.  They aired How I Met Your Mother for a while, which I enjoyed very much.  But then they, abruptly moved it to another time.  It’s become hit-or-miss at bedtime on Lifetime with more misses than hits.  The biggest miss being Dance Moms.

For me, there is absolutely nothing to like about this program.  The dance coach, Abby Lee Miller, is a raving evil know-it-all bitch, the mothers appear to be dumb as stumps but determined to live vicariously through their daughters, and the young dancers (whom I assume are supposed to be “precocious”) are portrayed as spoiled little she-devils in tights.

I tried to watch Dance Moms when it first took over the bedtime time slot, but I couldn’t stand it.  Ever since, I’ve read about it online and I’ve seen a few commercials and concluded that the program is, basically, all about the coach being a despicable witch and the mothers being catty.  Then last Monday’s episode was in the news because Miller made the little girls dance with guns.

We taught our kids that guns are not toys and that “pretending to kill people” was not an appropriate playtime activity.  Miller defended the inclusion of guns in the little girls’ dance routine by citing her previous success and examples of Broadway shows like Chicago that include weapons in famous song-and-dance numbers.  Of course, she overlooked the fact that those performances involved adults who’s mothers didn’t object.  And the fact that hers is not a Broadway show.

In my mind, Abby Lee Miller is a despicable role model for young dancers and, even more so, for young ladies … and their mothers, Dance Moms makes Toddlers & Tiaras look like quality programming, and Lifetime is no longer my bedtime channel of choice.

What do you think about Dance Moms, Abby Lee Miller and the use of guns as “props”?


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One Comment
  1. thedogs'mother permalink

    I have big problems with any reality show that casts children. And guns? ak!


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